"What is this second development? Very simple again.At the base of the brain of every child there is a vacant space during the first twelve or fifteen years.During the age of twelve to fourteen in girls, thirteen to fifteen in boys, this vacant space is slowly filled by a new lobe of the brain and with its growth comes the consciousness of sex and the development of sex powers.
"This new nerve center becomes on maturity a powerful physical magnet.The moment this magnet comes into contact with an organization which answers its needs, as certain kinds of food answer the needs of hunger, violent desire is excited.If both these magnets should be equally powerful, the disturbance to both will be great.The longer the personal association is continued the more violent becomes this disturbance, until in highly sensitive natures it develops into an obsession which obscures reason and crushes the will.
"The meaning of this impulse is again very simple-- the unconscious desire of the male to be a father, of the female to become a mother.""And there is but one man on earth who could thus affect me?" Mary asked excitedly.
"Rubbish!There are thousands." "Thousands?""Literally thousands.The reason you never happen to meet them is purely an accident of our poor social organization.Every woman has thousands of true physical mates if she could only meet them.Every man has thousands of true physical mates if he could only meet them.
And in every such meeting, if mind and body are in normal condition, the same violent disturbance would result--whether married or single, free or bound.
"Marriage therefore is not based merely on the passion of love.It is a crime for any man or woman to marry without love.It is the sheerest insanity to believe that this passion within itself is sufficient to justify marriage.All who marry should love.Many love who should not marry.
"The institution of marriage is the great SOCIAL ordinance of the race.Its sanctity and perpetuity are not based on the violence of the passion of love, but something else."He paused and listened to the call of the quail again from the field."You hear that bob white calling his mate?""Yes--and she's answering him now very softly.I can hear them both.""They have mated this spring to build a home and rear a brood of young.Within six months their babies will all be full grown and next spring a new alignment of lovers will be made.Their marriage lasts during the period of infancy of their offspring.This is Nature's law.
"It happens in the case of man that the period of infancy of a human being is about twenty-four years.This is the most wonderful fact in nature.It means that the capacity of man for the improvement of his breed is practically limitless.A quail has a few months in which to rear her young.God gives to woman a quarter of a century in which to mold her immortal offspring.Because the period of infancy of one child covers the entire period of motherhood capacity, marriage binds for life, and the sanctity of marriage rests squarely on this law of Nature."He paused again and looked over the sunlit valley.
"I wish our boys and girls could all know these simple truths of their being.It would save much unhappiness and many tragic blunders.
"You were swept completely off your feet by the rush of the first emotion caused by meeting a man who was your physical mate.You imagined this emotion to be a mysterious revelation which can come butonce.Your imagination in its excited condition, of course, gave to your first-found mate all sorts of divine attributes which he did not possess.You were `in love' with a puppet of your own creation, and hypnotized yourself into the delusion that James Anthony was your one and only mate, your knight, your hero.
"In a very important sense this was true.Your intuitions could not make a mistake on so vital an issue.But you immediately rushed into marriage and your union has been perfected by the birth of a child.Whether you are happy or unhappy in marriage does not depend on the reality of love.Happiness in marriage is based on something else.""On what?"
"The joy and peace that comes from oneness of spirit, tastes, culture and character.I know this from the deepest experiences of life and the widest observation.""You have loved?" she asked softly."Twice----"A silence fell between them.
"Shall I tell you, little mother?" he finally asked quietly."Please."He seated himself and looked into the skies beyond the peaks across the valley.
"Ten years ago I met my first mate.The meeting was fortunate for both.She was a woman of gentle birth, of beautiful spirit.Our courtship was ideal.We thought alike, we felt alike, she loved my profession even--an unusual trait in a woman.She thought it so noble in its aims that the petty jealousy that sometimes wrecks a doctor's life was to her an unthinkable crime.The first year was the nearest to heaven that I had ever gotten down here.
